“Frustration is an indispensable part of growth and success.” Terry Gurno
If you have ever tried to do or learn something new, you know what it’s like to get frustrated as well as all the emotions that go with it. Maybe you’ve launched a new business, you’ve just received a promotion to a role you feel unprepared for, or you’re raising kids. You know frustration.
Often, because of frustration, we quit. We quit our jobs, marriages, working out, dieting, playing an instrument, education, dreams, goals, and the list goes on. We even quit trying to quit. Take smoking for instance. They just get too frustrated trying to quit so they quit.
Most of us have quit something at some time. If you have ever read The Dip by Seth Godin you know there are times when it’s okay to quit. He points out in his book that we must quit for the right reasons and being frustrated isn’t one of them. Any time you try to do something new, something of significance, you’re going to get frustrated. You’re going to get emotional.
Frustration: the feeling of being upset or annoyed, especially because of inability to change or achieve something. (Oxford Dictionaries).
To Break Through Frustration:
Decide to OWN IT. Own the decision you’ve made to start or to say “yes.” You made this decision. This mindset puts the focus on you and what you’re doing (or not doing) and what you can do to move forward. Don’t blame: People, things or circumstances Don’t make excuses: If things aren’t going the way you had hoped, dreamed of or ever imagined
“I ran and ran and ran every day, and I acquired this sense of determination, this sense of spirit that I would never, never give up, no matter what else happened.” Wilma Rudolph – Olympic champion.
Decide to keep going. There’s a reason you started or said yes. You can’t ever forget what that is. Sometimes they really didn’t sit down and Count the Cost Before they Started and decide if they were really willing to pay the price (If that’s you go back a read the blog. You can click on the link to take you there). Those reasons will give you the determination to keep fighting and pressing through the frustration and discouragement. Write your reason you started or said yes down so you can see them every day!
Goal: The object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result.
To Achieve Your Goals:
Stay Focused. You’ve set a goal, a destination you want to reach. Florence Chadwick, a long-distance swimmer and the first woman to swim the English Channel in both directions, set out to swim the 26 miles from Catalina Island to the California coastline on July 4, 1954. During the swim, a thick fog came in and she could no longer see the coastline. She gave up and had her team pull her from the water. She was less than 1 mile from the shore. We can lose sight of our goal in the process of doing it. You must fix your eyes on your goal so you know it’s there even when things get foggy.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What will it be like when you finish?
- How will your life change when you achieve your goal?
Whatever it is, write it down, look at it daily, and refer to it often. See it in your mind. If you can’t visualize it yet, keep working on it until you do. This is incredibly powerful and motivating, especially when things get tough.
Stay positive. You must be intentional to fill your mind with the positive! What you watch, listen to, who you spend most of your time with, all need to be considered. I start every day reading something positive and uplifting. I also post a positive quote or two so I start my start my day being a positive influence on others.
Ask yourself these questions:
- What can you do to create a positive mindset?
- When will you do it?
Taking action with your best effort ultimately becomes the most important. When you’re frustrated, discouraged, and feeling defeated, it’s easy to take a day off or just take it easy. Don’t fall into this trap. You must keep moving, doing whatever it takes and giving it your best effort. This is where change, development, growth, and mastery happen. Fight the fight, focus on your goal, and visualize the finish.
You’re creating a life worth living, full of passion and purpose. You can and will succeed as you break through frustration and achieve your goals!